"unspoken aceness" means: A quiet, implicit form of ace identity that someone carries without labeling or announcing it — an internal knowing that romance and sexuali.... This is a fairly neutral word with no inherent risk attached. There is no real cause for parental concern; it is descriptive vocabulary rather than something dangerous. If your child uses it, context will usually make the meaning clear. A brief, curious question about where they heard it is generally enough to know whether to follow up.