engage check

A quick audit of whether someone is actually putting in effort or just talking. An action check cuts through all the plans, promises, and big energy to ask the real question: what have you actually done? Usually deployed as a reality check on someone who speaks in future tense constantly — always about to make a move, always one step away from doing something — but somehow the timeline never arrives. Action checks expose the gap between personality and follow-through with surgical efficiency.

A quick audit — personal or public — of whether you're actually following through on what you said you'd do, or just talking about following through convincingly. An actioning check cuts through the endless planning, the beautifully formatted to-do lists, and the very detailed emails about intentions to ask whether anything is actually getting done. Used affectionately as self-accountability or pointedly as a call-out. The friend who texts "actioning check: did you send that email yet" is both annoying and valuable.

A trust check is that gut-level pause where you stop and audit whether someone has actually earned your confidence — or whether you've just been running on vibes. It's the internal moment before you overshare, co-sign, or go to bat for someone when something feels slightly off. Online, calling for a trust check signals you want the group to collectively reassess a person or situation before anyone goes further. Not paranoia — just basic emotional due diligence in a world where people front hard.